Bethany on Health and Exercise (includes exclusive Workout Video)

One of the big benefits to this choosing to get healthy business is that it’s wearing off on our kids.  By eating healthy, getting active and talking to them about the great benefits for our bodies  we are leading by example.

side note: We discuss how exercise and eating healthy makes our bodies happy!  Exercise gives us strong muscles so we can lift things, play games and do fun activities, it makes our heart/insides healthy so that we can live a long life and it helps us when we are having a frustrating day to get rid of the yucky attitude and find a happy one.  Eating healthy gives us the energy we need to do all the fun things in a day, it makes our eyes see better and helps our body fight away sickness and germs.  We talk about how treats are fun, and a good thing but only a little bit because too much sugar/candy/ice cream makes our bodies feel yucky, takes away our good energy and makes us feel tired and not good.  We DO NOT EVER talk about getting skinny, not being fat or losing weight.  Both Corey and I feel those things are counter productive to teaching the girls to be happy, confident women.  They are destructive things that we refuse to acknowledge.  They will learn and face those things soon enough in life, and our goal is that when they do, we will have given them the tools and the habits to be able to completely ignore them. End of very long side note.

Over the past few months Bethany’s excitement and enthusiasm about exercise and healthy eating has really started to flourish.  In the grocery store as I read labels she asks what I’m looking for, why we do or don’t choose something and if it has corn syrup (something they know is bad for my allergy but for their healthy too).  She likes to exercise on and off with me and has recently decided she wants to be an “exercise girl who makes DVD’s” when she grows up.

It totally thrills me!  Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to raise children who are obsessed with health and fitness to the point of missing life, but I do want to raise fit people who find those things a natural part of life not a chore.  I also want to raise women who are confident in whatever they chose to do, and know that I’ll stand behind them every step of the way.

Which is why when Bethany decided she wanted to make an “Exercise DVD” I couldn’t say no.  This is the first video in her series, this kid has ideas of what she wants with life and where she wants to go with it.  Who am I to stand in her way?


 

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Audrey Update – Jesus Loves the Little Children

Yesterday was a big day for us.  Corey didn’t have to work (any extra day he’s home is always BIG for us Stone Girls), we registered Bethany for Kindergarten (BIG breath!) and Corey, Audrey and I drove to Children’s Hospital once again (HUGE BIG BREATH and a Sigh!).

We have spent the past month wondering.  There have been ultrasounds, blood tests and weeks spent wondering what they were going to say.  We’ve watched our girl ebb and flow, seen her have some really good days (!) and some really tough ones.  I’ve spent hours on my knees, begging for answers, for clarity, for peace.  All of the everything packed into this past month for Audrey boiled down to yesterday, there was good and there was not so good, but there was nothing horrible.  Here’s where we are:

- Renal Ultrasound - The ultrasound of Audrey’s kidneys that we had last week came back totally normal!  There is no residual damage to her kidneys from the multiple infections nor are there any glaring abnormalities causing the problem.

- Blood Work - Audrey’s hemoglobin, which has been consistently on the low side, dipping down to dangerously low when she’s sick was up a little.  It was only a teeny bit higher than it was when they released her from the hospital in November, but it’s eked over into normal.  Not by much, but at least it’s not under it.  GREAT NEWS is that when they looked at these cells they ruled out some very, VERY scary blood diseases that everyone was concerned she had.

- Her baby red blood cells are still low.  While they too are touching the edge of normal, they are very low.  When a person’s body has a low hemoglobin their baby red blood cells should be higher trying to increase her hemoglobin, not lower.  They can’t understand why her’s aren’t elevated.

- Her over all blood volume is low, something that is concerning.  Again they can’t understand why it’s still not where it should be.  All of her nutrition tests show that she has everything necessary in her body/diet to help facilitate a good blood volume, and yet it’s not happening.

- All her liver, thyroid and kidney function tests came back positive as well!

- Stomach Pain - Audrey has complained of an “owie tummy” for a long time and this month was no different.  She’s still complains multiple times a day, I still find her curled up on the floor and that worries all of us.  They did an abdominal xray yesterday because they both felt a mass in her stomach that they want to identify.  They want to rule out constipation (which I can rule out because this little missus poops 3 LARGE amounts a day, there’s nothing in there.) and to see what it is.  From what we understood they aren’t thinking it’s anything scary, but we need to know what it is.

- Hair Loss - Over the past month Corey and I have once again noticed that she’s losing more hair than normal.  While this time she doesn’t have the bald spots (yay!) it’s more than a normal person loses at a time and that’s another concern.  Both times it seems she has these losses after she’s been sick.

- Urine - Audrey keeps getting really bizarre smelling pee.  I know that sounds silly, but it’s not associated to any one food and it comes at random times.  It’s sweet, but not like maple syrup (maple syrup smelling pee is a big indicator of diabetes) and it doesn’t add up.

- Fatigue -While Audrey wasn’t as pale this month, she is still fatiguing really bad.  More than what I would chalk up to normal kid tiring.  A big even, like snow shoeing (which she only walked for a total of maybe 15 minutes, I carried her the rest of the hour) left her exhausted for 2 days.  She was ashen and exhausted during and after, and even with added  daytime naps, she was really worn out.

The doctor’s spent 15 minutes in their own office debating what to do from here.  Each of the things that remain make up a “muddy water puzzle” for them.  If a normally healthy kid had any one of those symptoms, they wouldn’t worry too much and would attribute it to a phase.  But because of what Audrey has been through over the past year, and the fact that they are all together it leaves them concerned that there is something more going on.

After a lot of talking, both on their own and with us we decided to give it another month.  They did urine tests and the xray yesterday, now we wait.  We need to observe her for a month, see if any of this improves, if it’s just taking it’s time or if we need to dig further.  None of us want to put this little girl through any more than she’s already been through if we don’t NEED to.

That being said, we have to be sensitive to what’s going on.  If we’re concerned, if something strange happens or a really rough day happens they want us to call right away to get in early.  They want to be able to run some of these tests in the middle of whatever we’re seeing to see if it can get caught.  The biggest concern from all our doctors is that these little things are signs that there is something bigger under the surface, developing and we don’t want to miss it.

Yesterday was good, while we didn’t get all the answers we wanted, we did get some.  We received good news in with the not great news, and the sun was shining!  Bethany was excellent for Grammy while we were gone and came home full of hugs and early Valentine’s Presents.

Thank you for loving us through this.  We are so grateful to God for His continued faithfulness in whatever situation we face and for our friends who’ve held us up with prayers, love and support.

Please keep praying for answers, for clarity, that we can catch whatever it is I KNOW is happening in her body, for Bethany that she feel loved, special and cherish (being the big sister is a hard job), for Corey that he know that God is always there for him and for me that I can find rest.  This road has been long and it looks like it’s going to be a little longer, and we need all the prayers we can get right now!

Thank you again and Happy Valentine’s Day!

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Taking a Break with Kinder and the chance to win $500!

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So let’s just start this off by announcing the great news – we have once again partnered with Kinder Canada and Mom Central Canada with their Kinder Mom Program!  That’s right, we are going to be building new toys, sharing … Continue reading

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Finding Grace in Small Things – #5

 

1. Sunshine – Everything feels better when the sun is shining (also, my floors look exponentially dirtier when the sun is streaming through my 4 million fingerprint covered windows.  I’m not sure that is grace…)

2. Persistence - I called Children’s Radiology every 2 days for the past two weeks and on Wednesday we were given an earlier ultrasound appointment for Audrey.  That means we’ll have ALL the results back for our appointment in two weeks.

3. Listening to Bethany Sing - It’s both sweet and sometimes hilarious – she makes up some interesting stuff.

4. Not being pregnant - I want another baby, but I don’t want to be pregnant – because we all know my body sucks at it.  We have 4 friends who are all due in the next month and I’m so glad I’m not them right now.

5. Walks to Sleep Resuming - Went for the first of many last night, wee!

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My head is pounding and I’m flashing

This was my Facebook Status yesterday:

WARNING this status is me whining. Read at your own risk – I have flashing lights in my eyes they can’t make go away for a few weeks, a major sinus infection and I’m back in the drs office for the 3rd time in 2 days. We still don’t have answers for Audrey and I’m about read to throw a flaming pile of dog poo at January. There isn’t even enough Starbucks to fix this. The end

It pretty much sums up how I’m feeling these days.  January has felt long and arduous and toxic.  Good things have happened this month, horrible things haven’t but it has still felt hard.  Each day has felt increasingly ugly and my mood has carried right along with it.

We still don’t have answers for what’s happening with Audrey.  I know they are working on it, I know that we have an appointment as well as a renal ultrasound scheduled for February and I know that God is in control.  It’s just that none of those things are pacifying me right now.  I don’t know what’s wrong, I don’t know how worried we really have to be about germs and infection, I don’t know if there is something serious going on or if it’s nothing to worry about, I don’t know  what the doctors are going to say, and I don’t know what our future holds.  For someone with a Type A, intense need to control every situation that is torture.

Then 2 weeks ago I started seeing a flashing light in my right eye.  It’s in the upper left corner of my right eye and looks similar to the static of a TV, it’s there all the time and it’s driving me NUTS!  While it’s not directly in my line of vision the flashing is seriously distracting when it comes to trying to read a book or work on the computer (hence the low blog post numbers).  I initially thought that it may have been some sort of stress induced migraine because there’s been mountains of stress flying around but it’s consistent nature made that impossible.  I saw the optometrist and then yesterday the opthamologist to rule out a retinal tear, because that would classify its self as horrible.  It’s not (see a good thing), but it is the gel on my eye pulling, something that happens to everyone, it’s just pulling quite hard.  This pulling is what causes those tiny little black floaters everyone sees from time to time, it’s a natural function of the body.  However, if it continues to pull, like mine is it can cause a retinal tear and that means surgery and loss of vision.

They can’t do a darned thing to stop it and fortunately only 3% of people with my symptoms ever have to face a retinal tear.  All the doctors can say is I need to wait it out and it should go away in 3 to 6 weeks.  Awesome.  Until then I have to deal with focus problems, little reading and the tired, sore eyes at the end of each day.

Then, if that weren’t enough I developed I sinus infection.  I felt it coming on a week ago and just prayed it was seasonal allergies or something.  It’s not.  The pressure in my face is intense, my orbital bones are aching, I keep dripping snot out the front and swallowing it down the back (you’re welcome) and I have a perma-headache.  I finally bit the bullet and hit the walk-in clinic, saw Dr. Script (because he’s RX happy) and have 21 day ( 21 DAYS!) of antibiotics to make it better.  I can’t wait for the 21st day.

I’m whining, I know it.  There will always be more good than bad in life, I know that too.  Sometimes though, it’s hard to remember.  This month has been hard, on top of all the unpleasantries we’ve had lots of birthdays too.  I like to celebrate the kids birthdays, I love to throw them parties and fill our house with tons of people and make special things this year, due to the Audrey Germ Prevention act of 2012 I couldn’t do that.

I’ve cried a lot this month.  I’ve raged, I’ve got frustrated and I’ve exercised harder than I probably ever have before to burn that negative energy off somehow.  This month has kicked me in the head and I’m so glad it’s over because…

January 2012, you are dead to me.

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Papa and the Snow Mary

Before the crazy wind began blowing snow through our little city a few weeks ago Bethany and Audrey got to have a very special afternoon.  It was the Sunday after the first portion of the major snow had fallen and the sun was shining.  The snow hadn’t got its ice crust yet and it was perfect for playing outside, for making snowmen.

Almost immediately after breakfast was finished that morning Corey and the girls put on their gear and out they went. (Nothing like the prospect of playing in the snow to make our 1 hour breakfast eater, get it done in 15!  Maybe we should move to the North Pole…)  They ran around, threw snow, went down the slide and just generally had fun.

When it was all said and done it was tea/hot chocolate time, and in they came.  We settled down to a movie and lunch, planning to carry on with a normal indoor afternoon.  Then the surprise came.

I was heading out for tea with my Mom that afternoon and my Dad was planning on coming over to visit.  Plans of building towers and playing Lego filled their heads and the girls waited anxiously for them to arrive.  Little did they know Papa had other plans.

He came armed with boots and gloves, ready for more outside fun and time in the snow.  They were ecstatic!

Living in the same town as my parents and working in their business office 3 days a week Bethany and Audrey get to “see” Grammy and Papa all the time.  They certainly get more minutes with my Mom and Dad than other kids get with their grandparents but they don’t always get more time.  Being that the majority of the time we see them we’re in the office working, Bethany and Audrey don’t get tons of one on one time with them.  Especially my Dad, he’s a busy guy always on the go, always trying to get 3 days worth of work done in 1 day worth of time and stopping to play isn’t (and can’t be) his first activity – even when he wants it to be.

They get to have sleepovers to play and little bits of time, but those days are few and far between so when they found out he’d come to spend the afternoon here, with them, they were over the moon!

We came home from tea to find two happy, tired little girls.  Full of tales of playing Lego, then building towers, then putting on ALL their gear again and heading outside.  They got pulled around on the tobbogan and threw more snow, and they built someone very special. Not just your average snowman, but rather a “Snow Mary” in all her mechancial and adorable glory!

Her eyes were made of washers, her nose a funnel, her smile a piece of vac hose, her buttons made of nuts, her sash danger tape and her “crown” borrowed from Daddy’s Chevy hat collection.

She was adorable, almost as adorable as the two little girls who were proudly showing her off.  That day was so special for our girls and for Corey, a day they won’t soon forget.

My Dad is a special man, he’s strong and kind, patient (mostly) and hard working, he’s the spiritual leader of our family, the guide that we so often look to, he’s a wonderful Dad to me and a wonderful Papa to our girls.  He’s taken Corey under his wing and given him things he didn’t even know he was missing and he made that snowy day one for the books.

 

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Finding Grace in Small Things – #4

1. Power – we lost power for 6 hours yesterday while a substation caught fire.  I’m glad it’s back.

2. Flyers - I totally love when Thursday’s paper comes full of the next week’s flyers.  Saving money rocks!

3. Birthday phone calls – Audrey turned 3 this week and she received so many wonderful birthday phone calls.  Each one made her face light up

4. Trips to the Library - For a bookaholic that place is like crack central!

5. Starbucks Employees - It’s no secret that Starbucks’ tea is my “grace” in a lot of days but this week it was the employees at a new Sbucks that opened up here that made the difference.  We mentioned it was Audrey’s birthday and the manager over heard and came from the back room to offer her a complimentary birthday tea (even wrote HAPPY BIRTHDAY) on her cup.  Their behaviour and the way they treated her was incredible and she was over the moon!

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The Magic of 3

The moments leading up to that one are blurry, their details slowly forgotten, their pain lessened with each passing year because none of it really mattered.  The first moment I laid my eyes on you was it and everything else ceased to exist.

As the doctor lifted your little body up for all to see, you lifted your little arms and crossed them, “This little girl’s got attitude” he said, and we all laughed.  Little did he know how true that observation was.

My sweet Audrey girl you are 3 today. 3 whole years old!  And while you wish you were 4 (because it was Bethany’s last number), I’m so glad you’re not.  Time goes to fast, moments fade away and blinking results in years past.  Years that I’m not ready to let go of just yet.

This past year has been a hard one for you, for all of us.  We’ve struggled with your health, you’ve battled being sick, staying in hospitals and being poked at by dozens of people.  You’ve handled it all so well!  You’re patient, polite and there is a grace about you in those hard moments that leaves us so proud of you.

All that aside, you’re my “Little Ms. Attitude”.  We butt heads like no other and I think it’s because you’re my little “mini-me”.  You have a flare and a sass that makes any and everyone around you laugh.  You are the girl of a thousand faces and expressions, each one sweeter/funnier/sillier than the last, Daddy loves each and everyone.

You’re Bethany’s best buddy and she’s your hero.  You want to be like her, do things like her, follow in her footsteps and it’s pretty much your life’s mission to drive her absolutely stark raving mad.  I love it (and sometimes loath it)!  To you Daddy is your hero and the guy who’ll always play with you.  You can’t wait to see Grammy, and you love to tease Papa with his hugs.

Audrey-Belle, you’re our little “Momma”.  You have a dozen babies and want a dozen more.  It’s not uncommon to hear you talking to anyone who will listen about how many babies you’ll have when you’re grown up, what you’ll  name them and how many bottles and “soo-ders” they will have.  You have a compassionate heart, an instinct to nurture and I have no doubt that one day you will make an excellent, real life Momma.

Watching you grow up is such a privilege my baby girl.  As the days pass, our baby fades away, the toddler has begun to vanish and the little girl with a beautiful heart has begun to shine through.  I’m in love with her.

Today is your day.  Today we are celebrating you, another year of laughter, antics and love, another year of watching you grow, another year of one of God’s greatest blessings to this family – our Rosebud!

Happy Birthday my sweet Audrey!  We love you, with our whole hearts!

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Finding Grace in Small Things – #

1. Warm Tea – We’ve been experiencing Arctic winds and severe winter conditions all week.  Tea is my saving grace.

2. Safe Travels – Making it to Children’s and home safely

3. Oatmeal with Cinnamon – It’s warm too, really warm.

4. Candles

5. Good books

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Snow, Audrey and Patience

Snow drift at our front door.

Sometimes I think Christmas should be moved to January 25th each year, at least for us in the Fraser Valley.  Without fail almost every Christmas morning we wake up to rain, green grass and puddles.   While some years we’re graced with the presence of snow for the one holiday a year that screams “I NEED SNOW” most of the time, we’re just left complaining we don’t have it.

Then we have New Year’s, pack up the tree and it starts to feel like we should be headed for spring.  3 weeks pass and one morning we wake up, look out the window and there it is. 6″ of white fluffy snow covering the ground and more drifting down.

At least, that’s exactly what happened this year.  Right when I was starting to think about how nice it would be to pull out my flip-flops, pack up the snow coat and pull out the sunscreen, we get dumped on.  I’m not totally complaining about it, the kids are happy (because they are certifiable and like to play out in that wet cold stuff), Corey is happy because he too is missing a few screws and enjoys not feeling his finger tips and it does look pretty, but I’m not really happy about it.

I don’t do winter driving.  I mean I can and I will, but after a very serious car accident in the snow 9 years ago when I lost control of my Cavalier, was nearly missed by a semi truck (thanks to the ginormous biceps on my guardian angel) and rolled it once before landing upside down in a ditch, I struggle with feeling safe out there.  We also have Arctic Wind warnings and blowing snow warnings, there is little visibility and we are housebound.  It kind of makes me feel trapped.

The kids don’t like this part either.  We can’t take them out in the snow right now because they’d surely blow away.  In fact I think they’d probably end up stuck in a snow drift somewhere, and if they didn’t they’d surely freeze off the odd extremity.  So, we stay in.  We watch movies and play games, drink tea and watch the weather reports.  And silently I pray for spring to hurry up and arrive.

We also faced a big drive this week in the bad weather.  Audrey’s appointment at Children’s Hospital was Monday and come rain, snow, sleet or hail we were going to be there.  We woke up to a substantial amount of snow Monday morning and it was still coming down as we got the kids dressed.  We left early, with plenty of time to spare and I prayed, hard that God would guide and protect our trip.

Which, He definitely did!  The day went well, the roads weren’t too bad and once we reached Langley there was hardly any evidence of the snow we’d had back home.  The skies cleared in the city for the day and stayed that way for the majority of our journey home.

The appointment its self went well too, we didn’t get any answers but we did get a plan.  The two doctors we saw were extremely kind, they listened to everything we had to tell them and checked her out thoroughly.  They don’t know what’s wrong with her, but they’re doing a LOT of blood work on her, checking somethings that haven’t been looked at and others that have.  They’ve ordered another ultrasound of her kidneys (which I’m waiting on the appointment for, and will have to drive back to Children’s for) and are expecting us back February 13th to go over the results.

They want to find answers as much as we do and they’re setting out to do that.  It was hard to drive away from there on Monday feeling like we didn’t know anything more than we did the day before.  Then I called my Mom and she reminded me we DID know more.  Now we knew our doctors, now we know they are going to do what it takes to get answers and now we know that something is going to get done.

Audrey was such a trooper for us, she let each doctor examine her without complaints, she waited as patiently as a 3 year old can and she held still when they took her blood.  She was polite when they gave her a sticker for being good and asked quietly if she could “Please have a sticker for my Bethy too” who was waiting for us at home.  Bethany spent the day with Grammy & Papa and was, as always an excellent kid.  We are so proud of the girls we have, of who they are and who they’re starting to become!

God is faithful, whether it’s clear roads for driving, snow for building snowmen (because what kid doesn’t pray for snow) or doctors who listen and care, He’s there.  He’s listening to our prayers, our thanks and our pleas and He’s answering.  Even when we can’t hear His voice, He’s answering.

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