My brother in law is 18, soon to be 19 and that makes me feel old. He towers over me and every once in a while when I look at him, I’m reminded of the little (and by little I mean short) boy who was a ring bearer so intent on doing his job at my wedding that he fainted. He’s grown into a wonderful man, he’s funny and kind, he plays endlessly with our girls and has the patience to teach them things (like the video game on their new Cameras) that I don’t. He’s also sarcastic and understands my sense of humor, which is why I totally love him.
A few weeks ago he posted something on his Facebook status that showed me how deep his soul really runs. It showed me that while he’s 18 in so many ways, the heart of his spirit is much older and one day he’ll make a lucky lady (if she ever survives the two sister-in-law interrogation phasing) a wonderful husband. His status also really, really made me think….
“This is absolutely 100% true
Girls Need To Realize: WRITTEN BY A GUY
We guys don’t care if you talk to other guys. We don’t care if you’re friends with other guys. But when you’re sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off. It doesn’t help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we’re still there. We don’t care if a guy calls >OR TEXTS< you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned. Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. That it can’t wait till the morning.
Also, when we tell you you’re pretty/beautiful/gorgeous/cute/stunning, we freaking mean it. Don’t tell us we’re wrong. We’ll stop trying to convince you. The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence. Yeah, you can quote me. Don’t be mad when we hold the door open. Take advantage of the mood im in. Let us pay for you! Don’t ‘feel bad’, we enjoy doing it. It’s expected. Smile and say ‘thank you’. Kiss us when no one’s watching. If you kiss us when you know somebody’s looking, we’ll be more impressed. You don’t have to get dressed up for us. If we’re going out with you in the first place, you don’t have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own. We like you for who you are and not what you are. Honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she’s just in her pj’s. or my t shirt and boxers, not all dolled up.
Don’t take everything we say seriously. Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it. Don’t get angry easily. Stop using magazines/media as your bible. Don’t talk about how hot Chris Brown, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us. It’s boring, and we don’t care. You have girlfriends for that. Whatever happened to the word ‘handsome’/’beautiful’? I’d be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with ‘Hey handsome!’ instead of ‘Hey baby/stud/cutie/sexy’ or whatever else you can think of. On the other hand I’m not saying I wouldn’t like it either 😉
Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren’t being treated right by a guy, dont wait for him to change!!!!! Ditch his sorry butt, disgrace to the male population and find someone who will treat you with utter respect. Someone who will honor your morals. Someone who will make you smile when you’re at your lowest. Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes. Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel. Someone who will stop what they’re doing just to look you in the eyes and say ‘I love you’ … and actually mean it. Give the nice guys a chance.
Guys re-post this if you agree. Girls re-post this if you think it’s cute.. Every guy who isn’t a jerk will agree with this, so we hope that all the girls that read this will repost this.
Life is too short to complain about everything that comes your way so stop and smell the roses in life because you might never have another time to take it, so take your time because they are all different in every way, so take chances in life, if it doesn’t work out then fine, there are always more roses to smell”
He didn’t write it, he read it on someone else’s status and re-posted it. When I read it, I was amazed. Firstly because he was willing to risk getting grief from some of his friends who are a little less mature for posting something so mushy and secondly because when I sat down and talked with him about it he told me that he might as well have written it, he agreed 100%.
Then I read it to Corey, half way through he patted my hand and when I finished he said, “exactly”.
We’ve all talked about my struggles with self-esteem and my image, it was a real eye opener for me. Corey has said some of those things a dozen times over and it took this status for them to get through my apparently thick skull.
I love that the guy who wrote this addresses the “jerks” that litter the male population. As a female who dated moderately, I encountered WAY more jerks than I did nice guys, and I wish someone would have told me to “ditch his sorry butt” over a few of the guys I chose to spend time with. It would have saved me a lot of heartache, on the other hand I’d have missed out on some really important lessons.
It was a great status, it’s a well written piece (even with the typos and spelling mistakes) and it’s something every girl, whether she’s 18 or 49 needs to hear. There are nice guys out there, you just have to look a little harder, you’re worth more than you think and beauty comes so much deeper than the make-up on your face or the number on the scale.